Body Language: How To Tell If Someone Is Lying

May 03

Body Language: How To Tell If Someone Is Lying

Body Language Of Deception

 

We are always very curious to know if someone is lying to us or telling the truth. The probability of detecting a lie is 50 / 50. It is a chance of a coin toss. There is no Pinokio effect. If we are concentrating only on detecting deception, we might miss a lot of good information.

There are many behaviors associated with deception like touching your nose, covering your mouth, or closing your eyes; but none of these are singularly indicative of deception. These can also be a sign of anxiety or stress. How, then, we can tell if someone is lying? Instead of focusing on the lying itself, we better focus on the stress.

We may ask general questions and mentally make a note of when the individual feels insecure or tense and then come back to those issues and discuss them again. If someone is hiding information, they are usually bothered by having to process it and then to come up with an answer. They might swallow, touch their neck, scratch themselves, or change their voice to higher pitch in order to pacify themselves.

People in general never reveal everything 100 percent. How many times have you told everything to your parents? Hopefully you didn’t. You don’t want your mother to know everything you have done. How many times have you said “tell them I am not home”. Lying is a tool of social survival. We don’t really tell people how we feel or how they look or how they are dressed.

Because lying is part of how we do things to get along, we become very good at that. Those that are the most dangerous to us, like sociopaths and psychopaths, are experts in telling lies. They usually engage in more eye contact, not less.

The conclusion is that we must spend time becoming experts in deciphering non verbal communication. Especially important is to recognize comfort and discomfort cues.  Once we learn how to do this, we don’t have to worry how to tell if someone is lying. Just know if this person is comfortable or uncomfortable with the topic you are discussing. If there is any sign of discomfort, that’s something for us to pursue further.

Learning the body language of non verbals will lead to new discoveries on human nature and will allow improving relationships with our peers.

 

Body Language: How To Tell If Someone Is Lying

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13 comments

  1. Margarita,

    You are definitely one of the leading experts in the area of body language and lie detection.

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  2. Hi Margarita,

    Detecting liars from reading their body language is a great skill to develop especially when singles are daing and looking for signs of deception.

    Happy Dating and Relationships,

    April Braswell
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  3. I assumed that if someone looked me in the eye they were telling the truth. Then I met a pathological liar and realized he was better at keeping eye contact than most. Now I am having to look at other signs to see if someone is lying.

    Yours In Health!

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  4. for me – the less I lie, the easier it is to hear and see one without “conclusion jumping”

  5. It is always difficul to tell if someone is lying…these are great tools

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  6. What you say about Body Language is quite controversial and resonable to understand.
    Thanks for sharing that.
    All the best,
    Marc

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  7. It’s always great to know how to tell when someone is lying. Do you find that body language differs from person to person, though?

    Cherie Miranda
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  8. Lyle R. Johnson: The Sales Wizard & Mentor /

    Excellent … I agree that to some degree lying is a matter of social survival.
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  9. “Everybody lies,” House. Yep. And having worked with both sociopaths and psychopaths (literally), you are right. They are very accomplished and convincing liars.

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  10. Interesting. I think you should do a breakdown of the President’s speeches when he talks about America’s energy reserves. Do you think he looks stressed when says we only have 2% of the worlds energy reserves? According to energy “experts,” we have more deposits than that. Someone has to be lying. Your expert opinion can clear things up for us about who is being deceitful.

    http://www.americanthinker.com/blog/2012/05/our_vast_energy_reserves_obama_notwithstanding.html

    http://www.breitbart.com/Breitbart-TV/2012/03/21/Obamas-2-percent

  11. Do we really want to know when we are being lied to? Do we want others to know when we are lying to them?
    Complex issues.
    Sonya Lenzo
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  12. Learning how to tell is someine is lying is an important nonverbal action to learn.
    Scott Sylvan Bell
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    Now go implement!
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  13. You laid that one down! Great tips and tricks for detaction… And the cherry on top with the psychopaths.

    Please don’t give ALL my secrets away though. Just think if everyone became a lie Detector! LOL
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